'Family Karma' Star Amrit Kapai Mourns Grandmother's Death Amid Wedding Plans

Friday July 30, 2021
Originally published on July 30, 2021

Since 2020, the Bravo reality series "Family Karma" has followed the lives of three Indian-American families in Miami, Florida. One of the show's breakout stars is Amrit Kapai, a 35-year-old lawyer who is out to his family and plans to marry his boyfriend of nine years, Nicholas.

But his Instagram feed this week is filled with both sad and happy news, as the former expression comes with the announcement that his grandmother has passed away. "I recently came out to my Nani. She passed away this morning. I'll always wonder if I did the right thing," wrote Kapai.

In continuing his homage, he added: "Towards the end, my Nani must've felt so insignificant. If only I could explain to her, "Nani, you were far from insignificant. You are the Goliath that we will always love and remember. Even this last chapter of your incredible life will have a lasting impact on so many people. We will celebrate you, your love, and your kindness for years to come."

"Rest peacefully, my angel. I hope I never caused you any sadness," he concluded, followed with a broken-heart emoji.

One of Kapai's struggles on the show was his contemplating on coming out to his grandmother. "During the most recent season of 'Family Karma,' Kapai wrestled with whether or not to come out to his grandma as he prepared to propose to longtime boyfriend Nicholas, but ultimately decided to have the conversation," People writes.

He opened up about the moment on PeopleTV's Reality Check, sharing that "it went as well as it could.

"It's one of those moments in life that you sort of just blackout while you're having the conversation — the words are coming out of your mouth and you're just, there's so much going on," he said. "At one point, I didn't realize the cameras were even there because all I'm focused on is her face and trying to select the words."

In another interview with Page Six, Kapai elaborated on his wedding plans, suggesting that he would have it filmed live for the show.

"The more that people are able to see our story and relate to us the better; it's all about exposure," he said. "It's all of us showing a person out there who maybe hasn't come out or hasn't mustered the courage — to show them, like, you can do the same thing.

"Just because you're gay doesn't mean you can't have a big wedding and you can't wear a tux and walk down the aisle with your mom. You can still have all of that. And that's my goal. I want to show people that just because you're gay doesn't mean you can't have it all."

He also added that the wedding is in its preliminary stages, but he plans to incorporate aspects of Indian culture in the ceremony — but with a twist.

"One of the events during the wedding is called the Mehndi ceremony and it's usually when the bride puts on like henna all over her arms and her legs," he explained. "And obviously, we don't have a bride in our wedding and I don't think Nicholas is going to be the 'bride.'

"But I kind of want to make it an event that's focused on my mom, because when she was growing up in India they didn't have a ton of resources to throw at her or her wedding. So to give her, like a fancy Mehndhi ... I would love for my mom and Nicholas' mom to be guests of honor at a Mehndi."